Navigating the Path to Sexual Healing After Trauma

This article addresses sensitive subjects such as sexual assault and violence, which may be difficult for some readers. Assistance is available through organizations like RAINN for those seeking support.

The tragic case of Sarah Everard, who was kidnapped and murdered in March, brought to light the pervasive issue of gendered violence, leading many to share their own experiences online, challenging the societal expectations placed on individuals to prevent their own victimization.

Statistics from the World Health Organization highlight a shocking reality: 1 in 3 women worldwide face physical or sexual violence, a figure that has not improved over the past decade.

Survivors of such trauma often face profound effects on their sexual well-being, with each individual's journey to recovery being unique and should not be judged.

How Trauma Can Affect Our Sexual Selves

Responses to trauma can manifest in various ways, potentially affecting one's sexual life through triggers, dissociation, and shame, all of which are influenced by personal experiences and societal attitudes.

How Survivors Can Begin to Heal

Healing from sexual trauma is a personalized process with no universal solution. Kai Werder, a sex educator and healing practitioner, suggests a range of healing methods from somatic practices to talk therapy and self-exploration of sexual pleasure, emphasizing the importance of patience and self-compassion on this non-linear journey.

How Survivors Can Reconnect with Their Sexual Selves

For those ready to rediscover their sexual identity, Werder advises starting with small, pleasurable experiences and progressing mindfully. Communication about consent and boundaries with partners is crucial, as is planning for potential triggers. Aftercare following sexual encounters is also essential for providing comfort and closure.

Partners must understand that triggers are not personal, and they should also ensure they have adequate support to deal with secondary trauma. Survivors and their partners are encouraged to seek local assistance through state Coalitions Against Sexual Assault for additional resources.