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Children are naturally curious, often asking questions that can make parents uncomfortable, such as those about sex. However, initiating conversations about sex, sexuality, and bodies from a young age can lead to a healthier understanding for children. Communication about these topics is especially beneficial for girls and teens, particularly when the dialogue is with their mothers.
Dr. Debby Herbenick, Director of Indiana University’s Center for Sexual Health Promotion and a mother herself, advocates for open and honest discussions with children. These conversations can contribute to making healthier choices as they mature. She outlines when and how to have these discussions with children at different developmental stages.
From birth, children should be introduced to their bodies in a straightforward manner. Dr. Herbenick suggests using correct anatomical terms when caring for a child’s hygiene, helping both parents and children become comfortable with these terms.
Continuing the dialogue, body-positive and body-safety books can be introduced to toddlers and preschoolers. These resources help reinforce the concept of body autonomy and ensure children understand the appropriate contexts for being touched.
By ages five or six, children's questions may become more detailed, particularly about reproduction. Dr. Herbenick emphasizes the importance of providing factual answers to questions and keeping conversations age-appropriate.
Parents are encouraged to prepare for these discussions, understanding that it's natural to feel awkward. If a conversation doesn’t go as planned, there will be many more opportunities to communicate openly and honestly in the future.