4 Strategies to Increase Your Intimacy Frequency Starting Now

Unlocking the Secrets to a More Fulfilling Sex Life With Expert Guidance

Struggling to find time for intimacy or feeling that your bedroom activities lack excitement? This isn't your typical advice column; it's wisdom straight from a sex therapist exploring the root causes of your sexual stagnation.

Explore actionable tips to revitalize your sex life and initiate more intimacy, starting today!

Do you often plan to have sex only to realize the day has slipped away without any intimate moments? You're not alone. As a sex toy store worker and sex therapist, the most common question I encounter is, "How can I have more sex?"

While many suggest trying new things, the real question is how to even get to that point.

Consider your desire for sex like a carnival game where hitting the target with the right strength and accuracy lets you ring the bell, signifying success. Energy and past enjoyment can increase your chances, but distractions or anxiety can hinder your momentum.

If you lack sufficient motivation, that bell won't ring. Reflect on these questions to help get things moving.

Is your sexual experience fulfilling for you and your partner?

Ever think, "I wish my partner would do this differently" or fantasize about more adventurous sexual encounters? It's normal for desires and bodies to change. Communicate openly with your partner about these changes. Addressing unmet desires can lead to more satisfying sex.

Are you dedicating time and space for intimacy?

Modern life is filled with distractions, but if you're letting TV reruns or your pets and kids take precedence over your partner, it's time to make room for sex. Prioritize intimacy by scheduling it like any other important activity, ensuring it gets the attention it deserves.

Do you consider pleasure a priority?

It's okay not to have sex if you're not feeling it. Discussing and respecting each other's sexual needs without pressure can lead to more enjoyable encounters. Consider alternatives like solo play or less intensive shared activities if there's a mismatch in libido.

Is anxiety affecting your intimacy?

Anxiety, whether related to work-life boundaries or body image, can detract from the pleasure of sex. Focus on the present and find acceptance with your body to overcome these mental hurdles. Confidence is universally attractive, so embrace yourself and the moment.

The barriers you face to having sex today are significant and deserve attention. Approach any discoveries with compassion towards yourself and your partner.

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